My Fertility Story

My Fertility Story


I met my husband on a very beautiful day in June 2010. We have been pretty well inseparable from one another since that day. I was sincerely lucky to find someone who has been this supportive, and in 2017 I said YES to his proposal. One year later, we got hitched!

We moved, bought our second home together, found new careers!

Even before the wedding date the hubby and I had started actively trying to have a child. He was not super on board with the tracking that goes into actually trying to have a child. But from my experience and that of my friends, many families have difficulty conceiving. To his defense, it seemed unnatural, and he just wanted it to happen when it happens.

I am over 30 with a Type A personality, so naturally, it was never just going to happen when it happens!
After downloading a fertility tracking app (there are so many options and they are all great), I began to track and learn more about pregnancy and getting pregnant. I already knew that with my PTSD and anxiety, my stress levels would be an issue. I was able to track my stress as well as other symptoms for each day.

Fast forward 2 years and we are still not pregnant. The feelings of inadequacy, stress, and jealousy towards others who have been successful can sometimes be overwhelming. Each month you are reminded that it didn’t work out. “Is there something wrong with me?!?!?!?”
We met with our fertility specialist for the first time and we went through our basic histories with her. She went through a previous test results and made simple suggestions for some modifications to our lifestyles that could assist us in getting pregnant. These simple health tips included:
• Good nights sleep
• Exercise
• Good nutrition and Vitamins
• No smoking or 420
• No Drinking
• Stress Reduction
• Treating his sleep apnea

Obviously, these are general healthy lifestyle tips, but the healthier your body is, the more likely you are to conceive. Many of us lead very sedimentary life styles, especially when it comes to truck drivers. This lack of activity will affect your health, fertility, and motility!
I had worked diligently to reduce all stressors in my life, including leaving roles that didn’t align with my goals. As an HR and Safety professional in a male dominated field, it can be very stressful managing the relationships between your staff, managers and owners. Throw in all the different cultures and backgrounds that make up the trucking industry and it can be both a challenging and a rewarding workplace for women. You will definitely need to be up to the challenge!

Even as I sit here writing this, I am wondering if I am going to be judged? I don’t know if I want anyone to know I am trying to have a family because I am interested in my career progression. There have been too many times I have been asked where I see myself in 5 years, or not to mention the meetings where other managers would rather choose a different candidate because this candidate could get pregnant.

Of course, my career is 100% important to me; I love helping companies be more profitable and help employees find great employers to work for. I love bringing positivity to the workplace to create employee engagement and connection.

But I also know that a family and a career are not mutually exclusive ideas. Many men and women are highly successful “despite” (or maybe because of) having a family. When employees know they are supported through company policies and supports they are able to manage their stress more effectively, they are more engaged in the company and are more likely to return to work after their leave is completed.

My husband and I plan to split our time off, as we are encouraged by the changes to the laws that recognize the vital parts that both parents play. It is important to our house hold in general. If and when we are able to make this baby happen.

We are encouraged by the support and flexibility given to us by our workplace to attend the many (and I mean many) doctors appointments. Without flexibility in our schedules, it would be very difficult if not impossible. From hormone testing, cell and motility testing, ultra sounds and x-ray procedures, employees need time to navigate these procedures. They are not pleasant physically and it is emotionally exhausting. These are just the diagnostic procedures we have completed so far! This does not include further hormonal treatments and testing either of us may need, or the possibility of IVF.

Right now, we are focusing on the small lifestyle changes and each other, while we wait for more testing to be booked. We are happy to be able to have employers who recognize the importance of family. They continually work to support us in order to ensure we are available for our appointments as needed.

Without this support from our employers, we would not be able to fulfill one of my lifelong dreams, to have a family.

Due to the sensitive nature of this article the author wishes to remain anonymous.

My first 3 weeks of training!

My first 3 weeks of training!

I wanted to touch base with you now that I am almost 3 full weeks into my training. I am having an amazing time! Everyone at CHET is so awesome and helpful! I am Loving soaking up all of their knowledge!!!!

Last Friday Richard took me out on the road for My first time ever driving and it was the most amazing experience! There I was, finally doing what I am here to learn how to do and not only did I drive Bobtail for my first time I also pulled a trailer loaded with 20,000 lbs of tires! That’s a day I will never forget…it was Pretty Awesome!!!! I haven’t stopped smiling since then!!!! And I’ve driven every chance I get since!

I completed and passed the “Z” endorsement course this past weekend as well which I was super excited about! Everything is coming along so quickly!!!!

Phillip Fletcher and Dana Allard

Thank You again to The Woman’s Trucking Federation of Canada and CHET for this opportunity, I promise to make you all proud of Me.
Have a wonderful day! Stay Healthy and Safe!

Dana Allard

WTFC Scholarship Recipient

Dear Motorist…

Dear Motorist…

By: C.L. Miller

Dear Motorist:

I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to write to you. It’s not that I’m not thinking of you, but I’ve been busy. As we enter a New Year, it seems like a good time to get back in touch.

It may seem that I sit up here in the cab of my truck, looking out over the roof of your car, not paying any attention. The truth is I am always watching out for you. I’ve learned to see a slight movement of your head that tells me you are thinking of making a lane change. If we are approaching a freeway interchange or off ramp, I try to anticipate your next action. I know when you are on the phone, eating, changing the station on your radio, talking to your passengers, or shouting at your children in the back seat. I can usually tell when you are tired or impaired. I know when you’ve only got one hand on the steering wheel while the other is holding your cell phone as you tap out a text message (and of all the activities that get your attention, that one frightens me the most). I am keeping my eyes on you, all of you, all the time. I have no desire to cause injury to another human being and am well trained in doing whatever I can to prevent a collision, but I am only half of the equation.

Now I’d like to tell you some things about myself, so we can get better acquainted.

When my full sized semi is loaded, it weighs at least 80,000 pounds. If my truck were to land on you, it would be like dropping forty or fifty cars on your head. Since it takes four times the distance to stop my truck than it does your car, you can understand why I don’t like it when you cut in front of me. I am much bigger than you. I really need you to remember that when we are on the road together.

My truck is almost seventy feet long. I can’t make any sharp turns, and I need extra space to go around a corner. Left turns are much easier and I try to plan my city driving with those, but it isn’t always possible. I know you get impatient when I sit at a green traffic light, but I may be waiting to have enough room to make my turn without taking out a pole or running over another car. I always try to avoid starting a maneuver that I cannot safely finish, such as getting through an intersection before the light changes to red. I wish it was easier, believe me, but there is nothing I can do to change the way it must be done.

I have as many as fifteen gears in my truck, and it takes me awhile to go through them. I do wish my truck accelerated as fast as your car does so I could get on a freeway at 60mph instead of 45mph. I sometimes get very tired of having to go slowly up mountains and around curves. I would love to drive faster and I wish there weren’t slower posted limits for trucks in many states. But that’s how it is, and I have good reasons for wanting to obey the rules of gravity and the Law. Please be patient. I’m peddling as fast as I can!

The entire right side of my truck is a blind spot. A lot of the left side is too. And when you tailgate me, I can’t see you. As bad as all that is for me, it’s worse for you. Please don’t pass me on the right unless you are very sure I know you are there; I usually drive in the far right hand lane and I may move in that direction when you are next to me. It also makes me nervous to have you close behind me because I know you can’t see what’s going on in front of me. If something happens that causes me to slow down, you may run into the bumper that hangs off the back. It is called a D.O.T. Bumper, and it is a very solid object. It was designed to prevent cars from sliding under trucks in rear-end collisions, because those drivers were being decapitated. That bumper does NOT give way. Trust me.

I try to pass you carefully and with plenty of clearance. It is perfectly okay for you to flash your headlights to let me know I have room to move back over. I may not always acknowledge it but I do appreciate it, especially at night, in bad weather, and in heavy traffic; sometimes that flash is all I can see. Please only pass me when you know you have plenty of room. We both have to slow down for road construction zones. We both have to merge when lanes end. We both have to give emergency vehicles space. We both should be cautious of stalled motorists on the roadside. Because I’m bigger and wider and heavier, I must be more careful than you. Please give me room to make those changes. Don’t make me choose between your car and the guard rail or the construction worker or the highway patrol officer or the man changing the tire on his motor home.

I spend much of my work day driving in unknown areas. I may have no idea where my customer is, much less which street I need to turn on to get there. If I make a mistake, I might find myself trapped on a cul-de-sac in a residential area where I’m not supposed to take a truck in the first place. At the least, it will be a difficult situation to resolve; at worst I could cause damage to a building or a person as I try to get out. I prefer to drive slowly and get it right the first time. I know YOU know where I need to be but I can’t ask directions, and you honking your horn or gesturing isn’t making it any clearer. I’m not trying to be stupid or in your way. I’m trying to be careful.

I admit I’m not always driving at my best either. I may be tired, hungry, sick, or just wanting to get to my next stop so I can go home to my family. I may be thinking of my kids, worrying about my finances, mourning a loss, regretting the chili I had for lunch, or wondering which off ramp I need to take to get to my destination. I try to pay attention, to not get impatient, to be courteous to others, but sometimes being Human gets in the way. Please try be as aware of me as I am of you.

It will make both our travels easier and safer if you also pay attention to what I am doing. If I slow down, it may be because I can see something up ahead from my higher viewpoint. If our paths are about to cross as you merge onto a freeway, please either decrease or increase your speed so I don’t have to do it. You can slow and accelerate your car much faster than I can my truck. That also applies if I pull out to pass a slower vehicle in my lane; it will slow you down a bit if you let me in your lane, but it can grind my progress to a halt if you don’t. If I am merging left for what appears to be no reason, I may be trying to avoid a traffic jam or emergency vehicle or road construction. If you follow me it will go much smoother; if you try to out-distance me, we will still meet up farther down the road and you will save nothing. Please pay attention to those signs that are directed at truck drivers. Be aware of a reduced truck speed limits, an approaching weigh station, and travel lane restrictions. I must make those adjustments every day. I don’t make the laws, but I am expected to obey them. I’m always trying to be cooperative, and appreciate the same effort from you.

As a truck driver, I make deliveries to your grocery store, restaurant, mall, hospital, car dealership, and every other place you visit in the course of your day. Sometimes I am there when you are trying to conduct your business, and I may be in your way. I apologize. I do not set the times for my arrival, my customer does. Just as you expect good service, so do they from me. You cannot walk into any establishment and find an item used for business that did not spend at least part of its journey on a truck. Please let me do my job so you can do yours.

Truck drivers are vital to the economy of this nation. Without us, all commerce would come to a skidding halt within a week, probably much less than that. We aren’t being boastful because we know it’s the truth. We are proud of the role we have in making our country strong and giving our fellow citizens a good life. Please help us do our best for you.

And speaking of life, please remember I have one too. I spend a lot of time in truck stops because there is plenty of room for me to park. The truck stop offers showers and food and sometimes a few diversions, but after a while I get tired of the same old, same old. It’s a nice change to go to Walmart. Many Walmarts offer truck parking, but it isn’t always easy to thread my way through the lot. Sometimes I want to shop at a mall, or eat at a different restaurant, or go to a movie. I may get in your way, and I’m sorry. I just want a different view, a change of pace. Please take an extra moment of your day to make me feel welcome. I won’t stay too long and I may never be back.

We are out here together, you and I. We can make this work.

Thank you,

A Truck Driver

WTFC Scholarship Contest

WTFC Scholarship Contest

Commercial Heavy Equipment Training Ltd (CHET) is a corporate member of the Women’s Trucking Federation of Canada (WTFC) and through great members we are able to offer our 2nd full scholarship to one lucky lady!

Contest Details:

  • Submit a 500 word essay on why you want to become a truck driver
  • Must be a Canadian resident or have permanent resident Status
  • Valid Class G license required
  • Must provide own transportation to the training school
  • Those selected for an interview to move into the final selection stage will be contacted in January
  • Clean criminal record
  • Pass a drug and alcohol test
  • Ability to cross the border an asset, but not required

Please submit your essay via email only to inquiries@wtfc.ca

Commercial Heavy Equipment Training Ltd (CHET) is an approved Private Career College (PCC) under the Private Career Colleges Act, 2005. They are a proud member of the Truck Training Schools Associations of Ontario (TTSAO) which allows them to issue their certificate recognized by the insurance industry.

CHET 2421 Cawthra Rd Mississauga, ON

At CHET, our focus is on you and your skills to ensure that you succeed in the profession. We value our students, their safety, and their training. You are important to us!

For more information on CHET please visit www.chet.ca

September Spotlight

September Spotlight

DriverCheck has been a very supportive member of WTFC since it’s inception. We value these relationships.

DriverCheck has been around since 1996 with the goal to build a healthier and safer world.

DriverCheck’s 2nd annual Fitness for Duty Summit is being held in Edmonton, Alberta on October 2 and 3. Last year over 350 people attended the inaugural event in Milton, Ontario, and they expect this year to be even bigger!

Work Safe for the Moments That Matter

This two-day educational event will address workplace challenges that employers must navigate to ensure a healthy and safe work environment for their staff and the general public. This year’s program will address a variety of fitness for duty program considerations from both a physical and mental health perspective.

The objective of this event is to provide valuable information and resources to employers so that they can put actionable items in place to build a healthier and safer workplace.

To see a full list of topics and speakers or to register

https://www.drivercheck.ca/news/2019/7/3/fitness-for-duty-2019nbsp
If you have any questions about the event, please contact Kristen Gouveia, Marketing Coordinator, at kgouveia@DriverCheck.ca